A Sensitive Topic?
Human beings are usually unwilling to admit mistakes or poor implementations of good ideas and methods. No-one is free from guilt in this regard; we have all made mistakes and tried to sweep them under the rug. But as we grow as human individuals, it’s usually parallel to a kind of pro-creative honesty that actually makes us not make the same mistakes again. I guess it’s called ”learning,” or ”learning by doing” or even by ”trial and error.”
When we deal with magic there is another layer to the conundrum: if we fail and fail again in an enthusiastic spirit of defiant empiricism, there are two main ways to go: one is to blame your own lack of skill, and the other is realize that maybe the magic in question doesn’t work. Wait! What? ”Doesn’t work…?” Blasphemy!
If you have a magical track record that pleases you, you should know that not everything that glitters is gold. So why take the blame for something that may just be an inherited cluster of compensatory fantasy stemming from others in the past?
Nowhere is this more prevalent and visible (in my experience) than in environments where magicians try to impose their supposed will on the outside – beyond their own sphere. A simple example would be the classic love spell, in which will (and desire) is invested in a proxy of whatever kind to affect someone to change his/her mind about the magician in question. Is this lazy or probably bitter reactive magic? Essentially, yes. Is it immoral? Essentially, yes. That’s not saying it couldn’t be worth a shot. However, the reason why you’re resorting to magic tricks is probably because you haven’t successfully conveyed your romantic/erotic greatness in and through your SELF. The object of desire cannot perceive your greatness and attraction so you apparently have to change their mind. Would you yourself accept that behavior were it directed at you (and perhaps not desired)?
Anton LaVey’s wise words about the ”balance factor” should always ring timely with/for the deluded:
”The aspiring witch who deludes herself into thinking that a powerful enough working will always succeed, despite a magical imbalance, is forgetting one essential rule: MAGIC IS LIKE NATURE ITSELF, AND SUCCESS IN MAGIC REQUIRES WORKING IN HARMONY WITH NATURE, NOT AGAINST IT.”
Improving yourself and your qualities is a better way to attract love interests. If you constantly desire those you can’t have you are either a conscious or an unconscious masochist. If that’s the case, then fine. If not, you might want to reconsider your strategies. Instead of forcing half-assed exclamations of ”will” onto others, maybe get to know yourself better first and then see who’s attractive to you – and vice versa? A key insight here: magic is about affecting change in the outer via the inner, and vice versa. If the original sphere is clouded by lies or negative emotions/self-images, the spill-over results will be chaotic and possibly amplifying of the negative rather than inviting the positive.
